It's hard for me to believe that this September 2018, it will have been 20 years since I created and produced the first Bad Boys Pool Party at a private estate in Los Angeles to benefit Aid for AIDS. There would be 4 more in LA and 5 in Palm Springs until I had the good sense to close the party down. It was still fabulous but as I had moved back to New York after many years living in Los Angeles, it became harder and harder to do the party from afar. Plus, I am of the mind that you leave a party before people are sick of you. Same for ongoing events.
Anyway, in addition to raising hundreds of thousands of dollars for Aid for AIDS, we also benefited L.A. Shanti as well as a few other California based charities that I eventually got to come and play with us in a four day destination weekend. And, as a little trivia note, had I done another party in Palm Springs in 2006, there would have been an addition of a 5th day - the Monday after Mini Golf Game. Michael Brandon and I and a few friends went to play after the weekend was over and it was literally the perfect way to end a crazy fabulous time.
Bad Boys Pool Party (never ever "Bad Boys of Porn Pool Party" - how I hated it when people would call it that!) was a response to a little thing a WeHo columnist had written about a birthday fundraising party I'd thrown for myself and a couple of my porn buddies to benefit Aid for AIDS. He thought the party had been fun but "not sexy enough". And, yes, while I knew I was being baited, I found a thrill in accepting the challenge: How do you find the fine line in having a sexy party with porn stars and yet not make it a sex party which would compromise the non-profit status of the org benefiting from it?
Over the years, I think we found that good balance although it was always an aspect of the party that I had to manage very closely. Most times it was easy, but once or twice I had to put on my big boy pants and get after someone who wasn't playing within the (very broad) rules of behavior. I have never been apologetic for wanting to protect the mission of the benefiting organization. Real actual people benefitted from the work we all did and to lose that funding would be catastrophic for them.
Anyway, I'd been tossing around some ideas when my pal and writer Mickey Skee told me about his Bad Boys on Video book that was coming out. It featured interviews of 20 or so porn stars (including yours truly) and it hit me that the 'hook' was featuring the guys at the party that were featured in the book! There were two other books that came out and there was even one Bad Boys party where fans could sit in on the interview and ask questions to the stars.
There are days when I miss the party, but the industry and Palm Springs, and even non-profits are all so different now.... I'm not sure it's even possible to do this kind of party anymore. And, frankly, in this political climate, can you imagine the kind of comments the party would get on social media? (although, again, I sort of get a little thrill at the fun of making conservative's heads explode with a sex positive fundraising event with drag queens, flaggers, porn stars, a bouncey house, the Sisters!, etc). lol :)
But yes, I have thought about doing a '20 year' anniversary party on several occasions lately.... although perhaps it would be like rebooting an old TV show .. maybe best left not to be touched!
What are YOUR thoughts? Comment here! Thanks!